So those VMA's were something, huh? I generally only watch MTV for Catfish and shows about Teenage Mothers, so I surprised myself when I kept watching after Lady Gaga performed. She was all I really cared to see due to the over the top nature of her performances.
In all honestly, the only things I have ever known about Miley Cyrus are what I have seen on SNL
I was too old for Hannah Montana, and only within the last few year have I really embraced my love for certain pop music. I am a music snob from way back. Vanessa Bayer is super funny as Miley though...
So from what I have read as of late, Miley is trying really hard to shed her Disney image and let people know that she is an adult, and doing adulty things. I mean, we saw this happen with Britney, and X-tina - we aren't re-inventing the wheel here. It is funny too, just days before the VMAs happened, Aaron and I were discussing how Miley probably does the best job of 'being wild' without totally wrecking her life (ahem, Amanda Bynes, Lindsey Lohan, etc.).
So anyway, Miley got wild at the VMA's for sure. My initial reaction was that my jaw was on the floor. To me, she didn't look over the age of 17-18, and I thought, did her Dad/Momager okay this? But then I looked her up and she is 20. And then I had to let what I just saw marinate in my brain for a day to figure out what I thought about it.
I thought it was gross, and just too much. Robin Thicke is like twice her age almost and she is all grinding on him and touching herself with this foam finger wearing next to nothing made to look like even less. If you are trying to show us that you are grown, #youaredoingitwrong.
Then I thought about slut shaming, and how I am generally against it. If only for the double standard women are held to. If it is wrong for her to be doing her thing, then it should be just as wrong when he does it.
However it is my personal belief that there isn't enough shame in the world. Not that it is everyone's job to go around shaming people for things, but that people don't feel personally ashamed for things they should. People of Wal-Mart exists for this reason. If you won't feel enough shame to put shoes on to go into a store, the internet will try to coerce you (and laugh at you in the process). Yet reality TV, one of the loves of my life, is all about shaming others. We watch real housewives to laugh at how dumb and frivolous rich ladies are, we watch the Duggars to judge them at how dumb it was to have so many kids, we watch Honey Boo Boo to laugh at how poor and fat they are. I feel like media (and in turn, society) is making us this way - ie: terrible people.
But I thought about that performance and how different my reaction would have been if it were Lady Gaga. I guarantee I would have tried to find the message behind it - what was she trying to express? Ending with, oh, that is just Lady Gaga being Lady Gaga. Then again, she was never in the public eye as a child.
I think the main problem with Miley being Miley is that we knew her when she was young and innocent. I think it is difficult for that transition to happen with anyone you know. It was like when I saw my little cousin grow up and get a bunch of tattoos and openly discuss smoking weed. It is a tough pill to swallow. He is always a little kid to me.
My (#oldlady) problem was just that MTV is supposed to be geared towards young people and this performance was just borderline pornographic. Kids ought not get such messages, in my opinion...
So yeah, I can't totally fault Miley for the things she does, but I don't think I'd let any kids of mine watch MTV until they can go to a rated R movie.
Per Aaron, really the only people who should be offended are Robin Thicke's wife, and bears. lol.
What do you think?